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July 11th, 2017 at 6:28:48 AM permalink | |
FrGamble Member since: Oct 24, 2012 Threads: 67 Posts: 7596 |
You can see in your wording that you still don't get it. Elevate to the level of servant or slave of all? This is what my life is all about service and sacrifice for others. It is the opposite of any authority worldly or otherwise. Kind of like the humble father who only wants his children to succeed, be healthy, and do good. It is not about me.
It is not a get out of jail free card, it is a get out of hell free card. You might and very well should perhaps go to jail for what you have done. That is justice, but divine love and mercy is what keeps you out of eternal hell. In regards to the mafia you really don't know much about what you so freely speak about do you? The Church has always been at war with the mafia and fights against it often. You can't be committed to a life of evil and just after you whacked someone go to confession and think it is okay until you do it again. In what world are you living, can you really be that poisoned against the Church that this is what you think we teach?!? As Jesus clearly points out you cannot serve two masters. To live a life of a gangster I think you pretty much have to be sold out to the irrational idea that morality is subjective and there really is now right or wrong and that my circumstances allow me to do something that might be bad for others, but it is good for me. The only one tooting that line, if I remember right is you. “It is with the smallest brushes that the artist paints the most exquisitely beautiful pictures.” ( |
July 11th, 2017 at 11:43:16 AM permalink | |
Evenbob Member since: Oct 24, 2012 Threads: 146 Posts: 25011 |
Same thing, it's a crutch, it's gives people permission to do bad things. I have no such luxury, I have to live a conscientious life, I have to act like an adult who's on his own and not a child who still has his daddy to save him from trouble.
Doesn't matter what rationale they use, the fact is they THINK they can go to confession, and give gifts to the Church, and get forgiven for whatever they've done. You think the Church is in the habit of turning down those large cash gifts from the mafia? They most certainly are not. They are willing enablers, no matter how much they are ethically against it. Just like they were ethically against the child molesting priests, yet enabled them by having no real punishment when they were caught. The Church is two faced, they often say one thing and often do another. If you take a risk, you may lose. If you never take a risk, you will always lose. |
July 11th, 2017 at 2:44:32 PM permalink | |
FrGamble Member since: Oct 24, 2012 Threads: 67 Posts: 7596 |
Please explain how forgiveness is equal to giving permission to do bad things. Also please explain how forgiveness means you don't have to live a conscientious life.
The rationale does matter because that will show you that you are wrong. It is like you thinking there is no God, if you examined the rationale you would realize you are wrong. Do you really think someone in the mafia thinks that by giving some gift to a charity their bad deeds go away? They might want to think that but if they examined their rationale they themselves would realize how stupid it is to think such a thing. It might make them feel better and it might be what they want to believe, but rational thought is not part of it. “It is with the smallest brushes that the artist paints the most exquisitely beautiful pictures.” ( |
July 11th, 2017 at 3:42:02 PM permalink | |
Evenbob Member since: Oct 24, 2012 Threads: 146 Posts: 25011 |
Seriously? If I knew my dad was going to forgive everything I did when I was 12, I would have been out of control. It's the not knowing that keeps us in check.
Of course! It's been drilled into their heads since they were 3 years old. Do you really think all those rich people buying indulgences in the 15th century thought they were buying nothing? They, and the mafia, believe it wholeheartedly. It makes perfect rational sense in the way the Church is set up. If you take a risk, you may lose. If you never take a risk, you will always lose. |
July 11th, 2017 at 3:51:34 PM permalink | |
FrGamble Member since: Oct 24, 2012 Threads: 67 Posts: 7596 |
Wait do you think forgiveness means you are not punished?
And this is why there was needed reform. It is not like outside this point in history that indulgences were sold. It was an abuse that was during a small sliver of time in the Church's history. I am sure no mafia members with Tommy Guns ever were taught at any moment that they could buy forgiveness. It is again what they would like to have believed, but they knew it wasn't true as much as you do. “It is with the smallest brushes that the artist paints the most exquisitely beautiful pictures.” ( |
July 11th, 2017 at 5:24:44 PM permalink | |
Evenbob Member since: Oct 24, 2012 Threads: 146 Posts: 25011 |
My dad never forgave and forgot. You were punished and NOT forgiven, you were reminded of what you did even years later. It's not the punishment that was bad, it was how you were diminished in his eyes. This is what keeps you from doing bad things. My dad was NOT an enabler, like so many parents are now.
Sure they were, where do you think they learned it. If they didn't believe it, they wouldn't have paid out great sums of money. They knew they were going to the amusement park purgatory, but they really believed they were not going to hell because they had bought and confessed their way out of it. If you take a risk, you may lose. If you never take a risk, you will always lose. |
July 12th, 2017 at 8:57:57 AM permalink | |
FrGamble Member since: Oct 24, 2012 Threads: 67 Posts: 7596 |
Do you think it might be possible to punish someone, not forget their mistake, and still forgive them? Basically the hardest thing to hear in your post is the part about being diminished in your father's eyes. Please know that it is not your mistakes that define you, that is not who you are. We all make mistakes but we are better than what our mistakes might say about us. The problem with this diminishment is that it doesn't lead to better actions, but rather worse. We live up to how people see us or how we see ourselves or we live down to the level others expect from us or we expect of ourselves. There has to be a way in the midst of our mistakes to not be beaten up or beat ourselves up to the point were we think we can never come back. It is not enabling bad things to continue by forgiving, rather it is enabling someone to change and become the good person God has created them to be by forgiving. You enable someone to be trapped in low self-esteem and left wallowing in their shame by not forgiving and thinking less of someone because they made mistakes. I'm sorry. “It is with the smallest brushes that the artist paints the most exquisitely beautiful pictures.” ( |
July 12th, 2017 at 11:22:42 AM permalink | |
Evenbob Member since: Oct 24, 2012 Threads: 146 Posts: 25011 |
Of course it's a major part of who you are, what flimsy feel good psychology course have you been taking. Tell a junkie/alcoholic his addiction is not a lot of who he is. If he can accept that, and get hard love from those close to him, maybe he can kick it day to day. If you want to spoil a kid and make him irresponsible, forgive everything he does and make him aware he has no constraints, you will always bail him out. This gives him carte blanche to act any way he feels, to be as bad as he likes. It's whats wrong with your spoiled generation, why the jails are overflowing. You think you should be forgiven at every turn, by family and society. Never underestimate the power of shame, it gets more constructive things done than any amount of forgiving ever will. Not the shame itself, the threat of shame. It's incentive to stay on the straight and narrow. If you take a risk, you may lose. If you never take a risk, you will always lose. |
July 12th, 2017 at 10:33:23 PM permalink | |
FrGamble Member since: Oct 24, 2012 Threads: 67 Posts: 7596 | You keep thinking forgiveness is somehow letting someone off the hook or ignoring the consequences of their actions. It is not. It is allowing the person who sinned and the person who was wronged to heal and move on. You couldn't be more wrong about shame. Shame is not constructive or an incentive, it is exactly the opposite. If you feel shame you become paralyzed and start to believe the lie that you are no good. You can begin to think that the shame defines you, and without the possibility of forgiveness, you are trapped and can lose hope. “It is with the smallest brushes that the artist paints the most exquisitely beautiful pictures.” ( |
July 13th, 2017 at 1:02:12 AM permalink | |
Evenbob Member since: Oct 24, 2012 Threads: 146 Posts: 25011 |
You really truly think anyone who was ever wronged by someone actually forgives them? It's hogwash. They may say they've forgiven, but it's rarely if ever the case. What they mean is they'll forget about it, or they won't let it bother them. But truly forgiving them? Not very likely. People are very bad at forgiving, they don't understand how hard it is and how much work it entails. Plus, you have to really want to forgive, and most people don't want that. They like carrying the grudge, they like placing the blame. What you peddle is intellectual forgiveness, the forgiveness of some fake god, or your own 'not involved' emotionally distant, meaningless, forgiveness. It's just words, like have a nice day. You're forgiven. Meaningless words.
Oh really, when did shame stop working. It's why the teacher put the dunces cap on the kid and made him sit in the corner. It's why the drill instructor will make everybody do 50 pushups because of something you did. It's why Hester Prinn had to wear a scarlet letter. It's why the Pilgrims put people in the stocks in the public square. Shaming has always been and always will be a very effective tool for getting people to behave themselves. Odd that you would think it's not 'constructive'. If you take a risk, you may lose. If you never take a risk, you will always lose. |