Men over40, never married, no kids

I would rather perform a vasectomy on myself than father a child. I have filleted plenty of fish and skinned quite a few animals how hard can it be?

Bob, I hear what you are saying about the old sitting room and parlor. I just can't sit through women's conversations. It is nothing personal, they just bore me to tears. And they couldn't care less about what interests me either. Once the courting is done, you got to find something else that interests you.

That's when they really got you is when you just don't care anymore. Like an old Labrador dog that lays on the rug kicking, in dreams of past hunts, but to old and worn out to go chase ducks.

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Escorts are legal - sex for money is illegal. And, no matter what, if a woman thinks you have money, they will find a way to get pregnant and BOOM, child support (plus health insurance, extracurriculars and educational expenses) for 21 years in NY.

Get a vasectomy.

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I have tried match.com a few times over the past three years and have received a total of 3 emails initiated by women (however, 2 of those were actually trolls merely writing to tell me the "recognized me" and were NOT interested LOL)
I had written hundreds of women and maybe received 10 responses…
out of those 10 women…met only 1

At the risk of reviving an old thread....

Here's what I can tell you about the other side. I signed up at an online dating site (not saying which) on May 24th. I've received over thirty messages from men by May 29th, and two from women (I'm bi that way). It's hard work checking that many messages. The first thing is to read them, then check the profiles, then decide if I want to reply or not. I decided against replying "Thank you, but we don't seem to be a good match."

Now, counting those whose accounts were no longer active when I tried to reply, I chose to reply to six people. Of those, only two replied with a message that led me to keep the conversation going. One account is no longer active. The other I hope to meet at the end of next week.

I can tell you what criteria I followed, but not whether that is a good indication of what most women do on such sites.

1) I prefer an opening message stating something personal. I didn't reply to any message that was merely "Hi" or a variant thereof. Typically men who wrote such messages had profiles which told little or nothing about them.

2) I prefer an informative profile. You don't have to encapsulate your life in one, but do state some relevant facts: what you do, what you like, what you want, what you have to offer. The last two are particularly important. I'm looking for a long-term relationship, preferably leading to marriage. If you're looking for a quick hookup, I'm not interested.

3) I was raised to believe that looks don't matter. I don't quite believe that, but I try to. Yet one thing I can't get past is facial hair. I had to make an effort to look up a profile from men with facial hair. My instinct was to just ignore them. It's just something I find unattractive. Other than that, looks didn't much matter.

4) I prefer not to be the first to send a message. I'm very shy that way.

5) I don't care about race, color, national origin, etc. Religion can be an issue. I was much less inclined to reply to men who were devout (obviously). I was even going to change my profile to include this tidbit.

I hope this helps any.

So after all that "sound" advice, I should add some more really sound advice:

1) When you get a message or are interested in sending one, first thing head over to Google Images (go to the Google home page for search and click on "images" in the upper right corner), and do a search of their photos. Search yours, too, so you'll see what honest results are like. If you searched a profile claiming to be, just as an example, "Mandy from Podunk, single, no kids, full time nurse," and the image search nets you a frequent catalog model, or a surgical nurse working in Germany, something's up.

2) Don't get caught up in what seems to be a good thing. If your match thinks you're the greatest thing ever, question why. If you come clean with major flaws or quirks about you and they dismiss them, question why.

3) Take it slow and don't be eager to let them have your phone number or even your email address too soon. The dating website will notify them, and you, of any replies. It's as easy to communicate there as by email or phone.