Men over40, never married, no kids
September 25th, 2014 at 10:05:48 PM permalink | |
rxwine Member since: Oct 24, 2012 Threads: 189 Posts: 18746 | And don't wear a Rolex. You believe in an invisible god, and dismiss people who say they are trans? Really? |
September 26th, 2014 at 12:14:10 AM permalink | |
Evenbob Member since: Oct 24, 2012 Threads: 146 Posts: 25011 |
Premium sex is when you have feelings for the person and they have feelings for you. Been there, kinda done that. If you think that's what money buys, you have some serious issues. You're at the bottom rung of the ladder, sonny, and you think you're at the top. If you take a risk, you may lose. If you never take a risk, you will always lose. |
September 26th, 2014 at 12:17:52 AM permalink | |
Evenbob Member since: Oct 24, 2012 Threads: 146 Posts: 25011 |
Lol, I feel the same way. She's offering me sex for money, is that all she's got? Pathetic. I can find sex everywhere for free if I wanted, you just have to know where to look. I had a friend in Calif decades ago who got laid all the time. Women are easy, he would say. And he was right. If you take a risk, you may lose. If you never take a risk, you will always lose. |
September 26th, 2014 at 2:20:32 AM permalink | |
AZDuffman Member since: Oct 24, 2012 Threads: 135 Posts: 18199 |
+1 The President is a fink. |
September 26th, 2014 at 8:21:43 AM permalink | |
TheCesspit Member since: Oct 24, 2012 Threads: 23 Posts: 1929 |
Super easy to avoid. Go and get the snip. It is said that your life flashes before your eyes just before you die.... it's called Life |
September 26th, 2014 at 8:35:49 AM permalink | |
FrGamble Member since: Oct 24, 2012 Threads: 67 Posts: 7596 |
It is a great life, pray about it! Seriously though in seminary it felt like every other day we were doing a workshop on celibacy and the challenges of not getting married. They really do an excellent job now a days in preparing you to make that decision. Believe it or not you won't die without having sex, but you will die or hurt yourself through loneliness. We need to have other people in our lives, good friends, hopefully family, people we share interests with, and maybe God willing one or two people we can bear our soul to. You don't need to be married to have this. In fact there is traditionally four vocations in the Church: the married life, Holy Orders (priesthood), religious life (nuns, monks, etc.), and the single life. If you are single pray about it and ask God if you are called to the single life. If that is your vocation you will find peace and happiness in accepting that. “It is with the smallest brushes that the artist paints the most exquisitely beautiful pictures.” ( |
September 26th, 2014 at 8:40:49 AM permalink | |
aceofspades Member since: Oct 24, 2012 Threads: 83 Posts: 2019 |
You know Padre, when I was a kid, I had stated I wanted to be a priest. However, as I hit my 30's, I became an atheist (as you know from our prior discussions). I believe I have no motivation to actually go out and expend energy on meeting someone…I am comfortable staying at home with my dog. My social life consists of casinos (I usually get to know everyone in the casino when I am frequent guest thereof and for the days I am there feel like the "mayor"). However, I then go back to my normal life and it is a let down. I am not a "partier" and hence I do not go out to nightclubs. Additionally, the bar scene seems to be for the youth of America and I am old at 42. I know there are bars/clubs for people my age but the women therein are out for their second husbands, this time only seeking dollar signs, not substance. I will admit I am selfish, probably from being single for so long and like to do what I want, when I want…I realize this can be a problem. |
September 26th, 2014 at 9:10:59 PM permalink | |
Fleastiff Member since: Oct 27, 2012 Threads: 62 Posts: 7831 | Not always. Many bars with 42 year old males will have 24 year old females who are decidedly not looking for second husbands and may be simply looking for a Friend with Benefits type situation. |
September 26th, 2014 at 11:15:41 PM permalink | |
TheCesspit Member since: Oct 24, 2012 Threads: 23 Posts: 1929 |
Some women of my acquaintance, out of their first marriage are looking for less dollars and more companionship. They either got money or family from the first time around (or both) and now looking for something else. People are different. It is said that your life flashes before your eyes just before you die.... it's called Life |
September 27th, 2014 at 4:52:20 AM permalink | |
AZDuffman Member since: Oct 24, 2012 Threads: 135 Posts: 18199 |
I had thought a "vocation" had to be a Holy Order or religious life, but then I remembered way back in grade school, grade 4 or 5 IIRC they gave us a little prayer card about vocations and it mentioned all four you say. I do remember saying it nightly for a week or two. Maybe it worked because I am and always have been fine being single. I am sure you counsel on this, Padre, but it seems to me that there are plenty of married people who are lonely while there are plenty of single people who are fulfilled. I find there are two keys to feeling fulfilled when single. First it to simply not care when others think something is wrong with it. The more people press, the more fun I have. One even pressed so far as to say if I was not going to be married why not be a priest? (His dad was some kind of minister, I forger the denomination, and he was on the Pope's Twitter feed.) I told him sorry, not interested. He eventually gave up and moved on to questioning me on something else. He wasn't a bad guy but was a but nebby. Second key is you have to form your own "family" around something. I have family locally and am kind of known as "that crazy uncle." When I lived other places I developed other connections. Singles group, roommates, even the core group at a bar made of people with no regular family. Unless you are a real hermit you will find something. Meanwhile, how many of us know married people who are actually lonely? You know the type, the ones who will work late, volunteer for a business trip, do charity work, or anything to keep out of the house because they dread going home? If you are over 30 and haven't seen this you have seen it but did not realize what was going on. I'm content. If I meet someone I do, if I don't I don't. The President is a fink. |