Attractive?
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7 members have voted
May 27th, 2015 at 6:22:21 AM permalink | |
Nareed Member since: Oct 24, 2012 Threads: 346 Posts: 12545 | Do you believe people when they say they find you attractive? Donald Trump is a one-term LOSER |
May 27th, 2015 at 12:43:09 PM permalink | |
Face Member since: Oct 24, 2012 Threads: 61 Posts: 3941 | Voted "yes" and "it makes me nervous". It's easy to tell when this particular question is answered falsely. Be bold and risk defeat, or be cautious and encourage it. |
May 27th, 2015 at 1:09:56 PM permalink | |
Nareed Member since: Oct 24, 2012 Threads: 346 Posts: 12545 |
I understand the nervous part.
How do you tell? Donald Trump is a one-term LOSER |
May 27th, 2015 at 1:51:31 PM permalink | |
Face Member since: Oct 24, 2012 Threads: 61 Posts: 3941 |
But do you understand why? Even when I know it's a genuine compliment, it still makes me edgy. I always found that weird.
Some of it's situational. But a good one is inflection. Fake compliments have an upwards inflection at the end of the sentence. The voice is also ever so slightly higher pitched, kind of like one was talking to a dog, only maybe not as severe. Genuine compliments come out naturally, or maybe even in a deeper pitch, depending how much seriousness one wants to impart on the compliment. Think of your own speech. Someone just cooked you something (my potato craps, for instance =p). I apologize in case you don't like them. You tell me "No, they were good". Think of how you would say it if they were gross but you wanted to save my feelings, vs how you would say it if you found them as amazing as I do. The same way you "fake it" is the same way everyone else fakes it. Be bold and risk defeat, or be cautious and encourage it. |
May 27th, 2015 at 2:08:11 PM permalink | |
Evenbob Member since: Oct 24, 2012 Threads: 146 Posts: 25013 |
It's not weird. If you were used to it, you would ignore it. When you seldom hear it, your first response is 'what does this person want from me', that they have to give me a compliment. If you take a risk, you may lose. If you never take a risk, you will always lose. |
May 27th, 2015 at 2:37:09 PM permalink | |
Nareed Member since: Oct 24, 2012 Threads: 346 Posts: 12545 |
In my case, I do. All too often there is some unwanted attention along with it. When it comes with a truckload of flattery, I suspect some ulterior motive. Lastly, I'm really antsy when a man who finds me attractive doesn't know I'm transgender.
I think i misunderstood what question you were referring to. I thought you said the answer to the poll question could easily be told to be true or not.
You're not supposed to tell a cook their food is bad. Not to your liking, sure, but never bad. I'm reminded of a joke about a man suffering from chronic foot in mouth. At the end of a dinner party he tells the hostess "The food was delicious. What there was of it." The hostess expression lets him know he's blown it, so he quickly says "Oh, there was plenty of food. Such as it was." Donald Trump is a one-term LOSER |
May 27th, 2015 at 2:54:40 PM permalink | |
Face Member since: Oct 24, 2012 Threads: 61 Posts: 3941 |
I think that's what I meant lol. What I'm saying is, if someone tells me I'm attractive, yes, I can usually tell if it's sincere and I believe them. The way I can tell (to answer your follow up) is largely situational (like, if I make a compliment-fishing complaint and they tell me I am, it's fake), but voice inflection is a great tell for the reasons I listed. Be bold and risk defeat, or be cautious and encourage it. |
May 27th, 2015 at 4:46:40 PM permalink | |
Wizard Administrator Member since: Oct 23, 2012 Threads: 239 Posts: 6095 | It hasn't happened to me yet, but if it did, I wouldn't believe it. Knowledge is Good -- Emil Faber |
May 27th, 2015 at 5:42:46 PM permalink | |
rxwine Member since: Oct 24, 2012 Threads: 189 Posts: 18770 | Maybe Nareed or someone else knows a story like so: Cosmetic alteration possibilities reach the point where you can actually look exactly the way you want. (body and face) without any shortcomings. My first assumption is, no not everyone would pick the same look. But what would happen with the typical selection process? Would it go to other traits completely, beauty or attractiveness being made irrelevant no one would really be picked for appearance since you could be want you want. You believe in an invisible god, and dismiss people who say they are trans? Really? |
May 27th, 2015 at 5:43:15 PM permalink | |
Evenbob Member since: Oct 24, 2012 Threads: 146 Posts: 25013 |
It happened to me a couple times when I was younger. I always wrote it off to ignorance. I've had lots of people say I was smart. Well, duh.. If you take a risk, you may lose. If you never take a risk, you will always lose. |