Is Christianity too feminized?

I agree with boymimbo and that is one of the reasons why "gossip" is not a good thing. It can be a way to gain and spread incorrect and unflattering information about someone in order to assert yourself or diminish another. It is one of the reasons why I'm surprised Evenbob twists this prohibition in a way to make the Church look controlling, when it is the exact opposite. Good Scripture quotes.

Quote: FrGamble

It strikes me as ridiculous that Bob and others are using a concept we all agree is bad

Really? 'All'? Did you READ the Atlantic
Monthly article I posted about how good
gossip is? Of course you didn't, it goes
against what you horrific Church defines
gossip as. If you really pray, you should be
praying to be released from the mindset
you've been brainwashed into.

Quote: AZDuffman

It is the very definition of gossip. You are trying to make your own definition to suit your needs.

Nope.

"Gossip - Wikipedia
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gossip
" Gossip is idle talk or rumor, especially about the personal or private affairs of others; the act is ...."

90% of gossip is not malicious or full
of lies and hate, as you and FrG keep
implying. It's just the exchange of ideas
and information, it's how we keep up
with things going on around us. The
people who try and control gossip are
those who have a lot to lose, like the
Church. They are always in danger of
people finding out what total frauds
they are, so they try and squash idle
talk.

Quote: FrGamble

It can be a way to gain and spread incorrect and unflattering information about someone in order to assert yourself or diminish another..

So you want to kill all the good and
productive gossip just to stop what
you don't like about it. I thank your
non existent god you are no longer
in charge of anything and your tiny
pipsqueak ideas have no way of
being implemented anymore.

Quote: Evenbob

So you want to kill all the good and
productive gossip just to stop what
you don't like about it. I thank your
non existent god you are no longer
in charge of anything and your tiny
pipsqueak ideas have no way of
being implemented anymore.

Productive Gossip? Can't say I have ever seen that.

Quote: AZDuffman

Productive Gossip? Can't say I have ever seen that.

When I was in the bar biz, I heard productive
gossip all the time. Most of my regular customers
kept tabs they would pay at the end of the
month. I would hear thru gossip that so and
so lost his job and I would start watching him.
Sure enough, drinking more and more and
putting it all on his tab. Time for me to step
in and get some of that paid right now or I
would never see any of it.

Gossip is how I kept up with what my customers
were doing in other bars, especially the trouble
makers. Kept me abreast of how other bar owners
were doing, were they getting better deals on
booze than I was. Kept me up on who was
dating who and cheating on theirs spouses.
All this was needed to keep an even balance
going for me.

There is gossip in every business, it's the lifeblood
of staying on top of things. Without it we would
be lost.

Quote: Evenbob

So you want to kill all the good and
productive gossip just to stop what
you don't like about it. I thank your
non existent god you are no longer
in charge of anything and your tiny
pipsqueak ideas have no way of
being implemented anymore.

For God's sake Bob you sound like a crazy person. Using your definition of gossip I can understand what you are saying but you refuse to recognize what I am calling gossip, which I think you would call slander. This really is a silly argument. I discovered a little bit a go and am content that our disagreement here is just semantics. We both have a different definition of gossip. What you call gossip I call news or information. What I call gossip you call slander. What you continue to say about my Church and me is for example slander. You being a prejudiced bore is an example of information or what you would call gossip.

Quote: FrGamble

You being a prejudiced bore is an example of information or what you would call gossip.

Mathematically, we would say you two are orthogonal, or perpetually at right angles to each other.

Quote: FrGamble

but you refuse to recognize what I am calling gossip

That's because you take an innocent word
and try and twist it's meaning so you can
lump any idle talk at all under that heading
and then condemn it. A small amount of
gossip is bad, so that means all gossip is
bad. Farthest thing from the truth as you
can get.

For the last time sharing news about what is going on is not what I or many people consider gossip and therefore is not condemned.

In your mind you think a small amount of gossip is slander and bad, correct? And you consider gossip a more general term to mean shared news or information informally obtained, correct? See, it is just a difference of what we mean when we say gossip. I don't know what the word is in Spanish, but just pretend when I say the word gossip you hear the word slander and all our problems will be solved.